Ok, I'm in the market for another gun. I own an XD45 service that is great. The only thing I changed were the sights, I put on night sights. Up until last week I have never owned or for that matter really had a desire for a 9mm. I went shopping for an XD sc in 40, but I'm getting older and don't care much for the snappy recoil and ended up with a Kahr CW9. I haven't had it to the range yet, Sun will be the day but my better half wants to start shooting more and she loves my 38 and 44 special revolvers and 22 autos. Her daughter is in her mid 30's and has never shot but wants to start going with us also. This time I'm definitly staying with the XD line, mine feels good in both girls hands so which do I get. Yea, I know, just get both right. I'm interested in the Service XD9, or either the 4.5 or 3.8 XDM. I know the differences, mainly the match barrel, changeable backstraps and you don't have to pull the trigger on takedown. What guns do you have, or have had and what are your preferences and why? I appreciate any input.