My wife had relatives in Kirkland who were staunch democrats. She would always bitch about the taxes, turning every street corner into a park blah blah blah so I told her to get everybody together and vote them out of office! OMG I couldn’t do that, I’ve always voted Democrat she said. That’s when I told her that then she was part of the problem but she couldn’t see how that could be. That’s the mindset that you’re dealing with.