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I myself am happily married, but I had a thought the other night:

For unmarried men or widowers/divorcees who conceal carry and start dating new people, how do they carry and deal with the inevitable intimate embraces one would expect after a few good dates?

I doubt you would disclose that you carry on the first date - you'd be disclosing the information to someone who is basically a stranger.
 

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Make sure you go low. Let her hug around the neck and you take the waist. I've been married for a long time but I seem to remember most women tended to go high anyway. At least all our female friends and relatives do. Wife goes low just to be a pain so she doesn't count.
 

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Nice one Bonehead!
 

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Make sure you go low. Let her hug around the neck and you take the waist. I've been married for a long time but I seem to remember most women tended to go high anyway. At least all our female friends and relatives do. Wife goes low just to be a pain so she doesn't count.
That's pretty much the way it is for me
 

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I doubt you would disclose that you carry on the first date - you'd be disclosing the information to someone who is basically a stranger.
Since intimate contact may be expected, possibly further than a simple hug, I certainly WOULD disclose.

"Sweetie, I have a CWP and I carry a loaded weapon constantly. Do you have a problem with that?"

That's something I'd get out of the way ASAP, since I doubt I would have a second date with someone who disapproved of citizens going legally armed for self defense. I'm sure as Hell not gonna take it off to please her.
 

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I've thought of this too. If you get to know them on the first date I don't see many caring. I've found most people even if they don't like people carrying still recognize it's legal and there are people like us out there.
 

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Since intimate contact may be expected, possibly further than a simple hug, I certainly WOULD disclose.

"Sweetie, I have a CWP and I carry a loaded weapon constantly. Do you have a problem with that?"

That's something I'd get out of the way ASAP, since I doubt I would have a second date with someone who disapproved of citizens going legally armed for self defense. I'm sure as Hell not gonna take it off to please her.
I agree, there would be NO 2nd date. Just think if they disapproved and u gave into it just to be with that girl... pretty soon shed be trying to get rid of all your guns! and that would just be insanity!
 

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its a tough situation because many dates consist of drinking anyway and if im planning on having even one drink i dont bring the gun out with me. if i wasn't planning on drinking its usually a subject ill bring up with girls before i go out with them. most i encounter are a bit anti gun but its mostly because they're not super familiar with them (may have something to do with where i live too). if they're adamantly anti-gun and wont even agree to disagree then they're not datable for me.
 

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When I was dating, I let the woman know in pre-date conversation that I do alot of shooting and hunting and even have a license to carry my handgun and do so on a regular basis. I only had one gal who was against it and we ended up never going out. My Fianace was nervous around handguns but said she always felt safer when I had mine. Now she has her own handgun and her own CHL.
 

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After the eight+ year marriage with my wife ended, I am back to dating. I usually approach this like 'itchy_trigger' did. Conversation about guns shooting to get a feeling about her thoughts on guns. If she's completely anti, I don't mention I carry. If she is even partially ok with guns, I tell her I carry. Around where I live, I haven't had any problems with guns and dating. Some are ok with it, some are not, but none have completely flipped out and called me a psycho or anything. One girl even asked read "begged" me to take her to the range. My ex wife had more guns than I did when we began dating, so obviously no problem there.
 

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My girlfriend is o with my pistol. she puts her had around me and a bit higher then the gun...she never liked the gun until we got into a situation
 

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I've also thought about this and figured if a first date is going well, it's certainly a good idea to bring it up before she finds it on accident. A pre-date conversation may be a good idea depending on how long you've known her prior to the first date. I carry appendix at 1130 and if she finds it on her own, I'd say the date is going VERY well indeed. :)
 

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Pocket carry solution?? Then she'd have to be getting really close before "disclosure" happened to ocurre.
 

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its a tough situation because many dates consist of drinking anyway and if im planning on having even one drink i dont bring the gun out with me. if i wasn't planning on drinking its usually a subject ill bring up with girls before i go out with them. most i encounter are a bit anti gun but its mostly because they're not super familiar with them (may have something to do with where i live too). if they're adamantly anti-gun and wont even agree to disagree then they're not datable for me.
I was going to say something about the drinking too lol...I've been in a relationship quite sometime myself but I have thought about this scenario as well...Here is how I would look at it...If she is anti-gun, she will not last more than one date with me anyways. Also, depends where the first date is....Someplace I know well and know is pretty safe, might leave the gun at home and have a drink, unknown/shady place = gun = no booze. Either way, CC will come up and thats that.
 

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I myself am happily married, but I had a thought the other night:

For unmarried men or widowers/divorcees who conceal carry and start dating new people, how do they carry and deal with the inevitable intimate embraces one would expect after a few good dates?

I doubt you would disclose that you carry on the first date - you'd be disclosing the information to someone who is basically a stranger.

Dude chicks dig guns it turns em on! They will think your the man!! Now you just have to worry about how girls always seem to do sh%t to get their bf into fights haha then you gotta look like a wus and walk away cas you have a freakin gun!
 

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The girl I just currently started dating hates guns and wants no part of them. The crappy part is, I really dig this chick.....so needless to say, CCW has been a touchy spot. I still do it because it's my right and I always will exercise it.

Trying to figure out ways to get her more comfortable with it.
 
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