What are you going to use the ammo for ❓
Bear/Moose protection
Hunting
Self-defense
House protection
Truck gun
Target
I read that the lighter the bullet the less recoil it has.
I believe sound decibels depends on two things, how much and what type of powder you have and the amount of grs the bullet has.
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Let’s go for assumptions here. Both bullets are traveling the same speed and that you are down range and can’t hear the report of the cartridge going off. This way we can compare apples to apples.Yes, at both subsonic and supersonic speeds the large bullet will be louder. The shape of the bullet also makes a difference. In general the bullet with the greatest cross sectional area is usually louder. And a flat nose bullet will be louder than a round or spitzer (sharp) point bullet of the same cross sectional area .
The 10mm has a wide range of choices and ammo you use depends on what you will use it for