I am new to the site and still do not own a gun. I have been to 3 different gun stores in the last two weeks over 5 times. I am looking at purchasing the XDM .40 or .45. I do intend to get a CCL and am looking at the .40 for the subcompact feature in the 3.8. I have also looked at the M&P .45. I am torn between these three guns. Most likely I will get the XDm just not sure which caliber. For the price ($600) I will get the whole package whereas the M&P just comes with the gun and a mag and a box. Any suggestions? Also, today I will be going to a friends to fire his SRC 9mm. It will be the second time I ever shot a pistol. I bought 50 rounds and am very excited. Any advice will be very much appreciated. Thank you.