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jcabin · 05-28-2008, 10:02 PM

Here's a little history of us. We dated in high school from when we were 15 to 18. We were eachothers first. It was amazing. I loved her to death. Then I ended it with her during senior year. Needed to be on my own and be with other girls (selfish i know some might say, but **** it) Anyways, always kept in touch, occassionally hooked up here and there. So about 2 years ago we started going out again, ill be 23 this september, she just turned 22 in april. I still love her, i never stopped. I'm pretty sure I want to marry her and be with her for the rest of my life, and she feels the same way, this girl loves me more than anything. She supports everything do in life. In fact she pretty much saved my life 2 years ago by helping me kick a nasty habit, something I try to forget about and deny ever happened, I dont think I give her enough credit for that. So, her parents lost their house unfortunatly, they have to be out by tommorow. We have all her stuffed packed up, and im moving her into my house today. I'm a little nervous about it, all of a sudden it feels like im being held captive. It kinda feels like im caged or something all of a sudden. I mean I love her to death, and as I said I want to be with her for the rest of my life. But as of lately there's been a girl or two catching my eye and I have "evil thoughts". I've never been unfaithful to her. Idk, i've just got all this stuff going through my head. I just thought I'd throw it out here and see what comes back..

nonnieselman · 05-28-2008, 10:15 PM

Um... have fun? Guess it gives you a better picture as to what its like to actually live with somebody..

Captain Jack · 05-28-2008, 10:18 PM

You should feel lucky. You HAVE a girlfriend. Unlike me, I'm a total loser when it comes to finding a decent girl who would want anything to do with me... Sometimes I wonder if I ever will. I have my doubts now that I will be 33 in two days.

pinpointshot · 05-28-2008, 10:18 PM

Sounds like you should just stay with her and everything will probably work out grand. On the other hand if you end it again then it may be over for good and things probably won't end up as good as if you just stay with her and cherish her.

Then again what do I know?

**DanTheEldest** · 05-28-2008, 10:21 PM

All sermonizing and Christianizing aside (which I've been known to do), my opinion: if you love the girl, marry her and then move her in. There's no ambiguousness about the relationship, and you'd be surprised at the real feeling of freedom that comes with that. Also offered up for consideration, I can't find the exact study right now, but as bad as our current divorce rate is in this country, it gets significantly worse when the couple in question lived together prior to marriage as compared to those who didn't.

And, my friend, the "evil thoughts" never stop, even for the most committed of us. That's where you step up and stay with your lady no matter how fine the T&A walking past happens to be.

Just my .02, humbly offered.

Bill in San Jose · 05-28-2008, 10:27 PM

Why don't you just marry her?

Terribly old fashioned concept, but why not?

Highschool sweetheart, she saved your life.

?

CommieHunter · 05-28-2008, 10:56 PM

Dan and Bill have it down.

Listen to Dan. Really.

If you want to spend the rest of your life with her, do it married. If you want to spend the rest of your life with her, don't think that going and having fun first is going to make things work better. If you're going to have fun, have fun with her, and have fun married.

Kent · 05-28-2008, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by CommieHunter

Dan and Bill have it down.

Listen to Dan. Really.

If you want to spend the rest of your life with her, do it married. If you want to spend the rest of yoru life with her, don't think that going and having fun first is going to make things work better. If you're going to have fun, have fun with her, and have fun married.

I agree 100 percent.

Reno82 · 05-28-2008, 11:28 PM

Marriage is life... Even in the animal world animals make commitments to each other. Work out your problems with her. Talk to her how you are feeling. Right on the money with Dan. I've been married for 25 years now... and I love my wife more so now then I did when we first started. Good luck JCABIN.

The Tengu · 05-29-2008, 01:14 AM

It's over, boss.

05-28-2008, 10:02 PM	#1
jcabin XDTalk 500 Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 543	Girlfriend is moving in tommorow... god help me. Here's a little history of us. We dated in high school from when we were 15 to 18. We were eachothers first. It was amazing. I loved her to death. Then I ended it with her during senior year. Needed to be on my own and be with other girls (selfish i know some might say, but **** it) Anyways, always kept in touch, occassionally hooked up here and there. So about 2 years ago we started going out again, ill be 23 this september, she just turned 22 in april. I still love her, i never stopped. I'm pretty sure I want to marry her and be with her for the rest of my life, and she feels the same way, this girl loves me more than anything. She supports everything do in life. In fact she pretty much saved my life 2 years ago by helping me kick a nasty habit, something I try to forget about and deny ever happened, I dont think I give her enough credit for that. So, her parents lost their house unfortunatly, they have to be out by tommorow. We have all her stuffed packed up, and im moving her into my house today. I'm a little nervous about it, all of a sudden it feels like im being held captive. It kinda feels like im caged or something all of a sudden. I mean I love her to death, and as I said I want to be with her for the rest of my life. But as of lately there's been a girl or two catching my eye and I have "evil thoughts". I've never been unfaithful to her. Idk, i've just got all this stuff going through my head. I just thought I'd throw it out here and see what comes back.. __________________ XD9 Service w/ TFO's

05-28-2008, 10:15 PM	#2
nonnieselman XDTalk 100 Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: CS, MS Posts: 248	Um... have fun? Guess it gives you a better picture as to what its like to actually live with somebody.. __________________ Bustmaster AR-15 Remington 700 .22-250 Ruger 10/22 Walther P-22 XD .40 Service 4" with Heinie N/S 2000 Silverado ECSB 6.0/4L80E STS Nitrous So fun!!!!

05-28-2008, 10:18 PM	#4
pinpointshot XDTalk 100 Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Evansville, Indiana Posts: 196	Sounds like you should just stay with her and everything will probably work out grand. On the other hand if you end it again then it may be over for good and things probably won't end up as good as if you just stay with her and cherish her. Then again what do I know? __________________ " If you dont have anything nice to say...You must be talkin about Hillary Clinton." Jeff Foxworthy

05-28-2008, 10:21 PM	#5
DanTheEldest XDTalk 5K Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 6,292	All sermonizing and Christianizing aside (which I've been known to do), my opinion: if you love the girl, marry her and then move her in. There's no ambiguousness about the relationship, and you'd be surprised at the real feeling of freedom that comes with that. Also offered up for consideration, I can't find the exact study right now, but as bad as our current divorce rate is in this country, it gets significantly worse when the couple in question lived together prior to marriage as compared to those who didn't. And, my friend, the "evil thoughts" never stop, even for the most committed of us. That's where you step up and stay with your lady no matter how fine the T&A walking past happens to be. Just my .02, humbly offered. __________________ The AK-47: Designed to be field-stripped and used effectively by a half-drunk, half-frozen illiterate conscript who found it buried in Mother Russia's mud after last year's Regiment exercises. SOP: retrieve from ground, pee in action, cycle bolt, go back to work. I cannot and will not recant anything, for to go against conscience is neither right nor safe. Here I stand, I can do no other, so help me God. --Martin Luther

05-28-2008, 10:27 PM	#6
Bill in San Jose XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,276	Why don't you just marry her? Terribly old fashioned concept, but why not? Highschool sweetheart, she saved your life. ? __________________ A strong body makes the mind strong. As to the species of exercises, I advise the gun. While this gives moderate exercise to the body, it gives boldness, enterprise and independence to the mind. Games played with the ball and others of that nature, are too violent for the body and stamp no character on the mind. Let your gun therefore be the constant companion of your walks. - Thomas Jefferson, in a letter to his nephew

05-28-2008, 10:18 PM	#3
Captain Jack XDTalk 500 Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 989	You should feel lucky. You HAVE a girlfriend. Unlike me, I'm a total loser when it comes to finding a decent girl who would want anything to do with me... Sometimes I wonder if I ever will. I have my doubts now that I will be 33 in two days.

05-28-2008, 10:56 PM	#7
CommieHunter XDTalk 100 Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Beaverton, OR Posts: 198	Dan and Bill have it down. Listen to Dan. Really. If you want to spend the rest of your life with her, do it married. If you want to spend the rest of your life with her, don't think that going and having fun first is going to make things work better. If you're going to have fun, have fun with her, and have fun married. Last edited by CommieHunter : 05-29-2008 at 11:28 AM.

05-28-2008, 11:28 PM	#9
Reno82 XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Alaska Posts: 1,159	Marriage is life... Even in the animal world animals make commitments to each other. Work out your problems with her. Talk to her how you are feeling. Right on the money with Dan. I've been married for 25 years now... and I love my wife more so now then I did when we first started. Good luck JCABIN. __________________ *** XD-45acp Service (Match Gun I changed it to a compact for CCW... did a grip chop on it) Ruger Mark III 22/45 Kimber SS Custom Target II 10mm Walther G22 (FUN GUN) XD-45acp Tactical (Match Gun II; upgraded the bbl from PistolGear) XD-9 Sub-Compact (Home Defense and CCW) DPMS AR-15: 9mm (1/17/08...) RRA CAR A4 Upper 223/5.56---did a lower bulid 6/3/08 and bought completed upper 2/21/08 S&W 642 38 special w/ CT grips (Home Defense & CCW) in order of purchases**

05-29-2008, 01:14 AM	#10
The Tengu XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 1,768	It's over, boss. __________________ The militia of the United States consists of all able-bodied males at least 17 years of age and, except as provided in section 313 of title 32, under 45 years of age who are, or who have made a declaration of intention to become, citizens of the United States and of female citizens of the United States who are members of the National Guard. United States Code, Title 10, section 311, paragraph (a)

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