Wife and I are seperating

[Majk]

Originally Posted by Requiem4Senses

These gentlemen express my thoughts exactly. Separation does not have to mean divorce, and if I were you, I would just not think about what to do "when" the divorce happens. Rather, I would put all that energy into spending time with your child and trying to make the marriage work.

Unfortunately, many secular counselors advise people based on the theory that divorce is okay, and may decide its inevitable. If you're spiritual, and maybe even if you aren't, go to a Pastor or other spiritual leader for marriage counseling. Normally, in their opinion, divorce is never an option, therefore they seem to know how to make relationships work. I know because this is how it worked for me. My wife and I are still married because we had the grace of God and a good pastor to help us through some tough times.

Well said, very well said. My wife and I have seen our pastor many times to help us through tough times.

With my first wife we went to a secular counselor and he said divorce is fine, if she wants to be a single person again, it's wrong to try any longer.

My prayers are with you and your family. Hopefully you can work this out, and 5 years from now you look back and this was just a hiccup in your long life together.

God bless.