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DJDan · 12-13-2006, 11:24 PM

I had a great friend...one of my best friends years ago...around 7 years or so that I had a BAD falling out with.

We were roomates and I learned quickly that great friends sometimes make horrible roomates. I moved out on bad terms after he and friends had damaged my car and a couple other things. As he had damaged my car and some other issues I stiffed him for a month of rent since I had to repair my door panel and replace an item or two that were stolen by a friend of his. Of course we were BOTH in the wrong and neither of us handled it like adults and basically NEVER spoke again.

In retrospect I miss him as a friend very much. The crap that he broke and that got stolen and the money I stiffed him is to me, completely unimportant, and I WISH I would have realized that back then. He is a good guy, pro-gun, fun to hang and drink beer with...just a regular good normal guy. I very much regret how everything happened and regret even MORE the fact that we never really attempted at a repair of the situation.

I found a phone number for him on Zabasearch but have had a hard time bringing myself to make the call. I think maybe he'll think it's odd or just not give a sh t. I know this may be an odd question but I'm up in the air about what to do. It's hard to find true friends and I feel like we blew it over nonsense.

jednp · 12-13-2006, 11:30 PM

I had a falling out with my best friend since kindergarten, in 11th grade. It was over a girl. I missed him as a friend greatly too. I contacted him like 4 years later and talked with him. He apologized for what happened, and I learned that the whole time we weren't talking it was eating him up.. heard that from taht girl as well. I forgave him, and we're back to being best friends. Couldn't get a better pair of friends.. my name is Jed, his is Jeb and we grew up about 1/2 block from eachother. All that stuff is in the past now and we don't care. It was worth me making the call, even when he was the one in the wrong.

i say make the call, if he doesn't want anything to do with it then things will not change anyways so what's there to lose? You only have something to gain.

**XDAndMe** · 12-13-2006, 11:33 PM

It's no different than approaching a woman. You want to be accepted, but if you get rejected, you don't care. You lost nothing. At least you don't have to live with the "what if" question.

I say call him if you really want to try and salvage the frienship. If he blows you off, just shrug it off. It's not like you have a friendship with him anyway, so you won't be losing anything. All you can do is gain from it.

*edit: damn... jednp beat me to it*

Captain Jack · 12-13-2006, 11:43 PM

Seven years, eh? Did he damage your car on purpose?

I wouldn't call. Move on.

jednp · 12-13-2006, 11:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by XDAndMe

It's no different than approaching a woman. You want to be accepted, but if you get rejected, you don't care. You lost nothing. At least you don't have to live with the "what if" question.

I say call him if you really want to try and salvage the frienship. If he blows you off, just shrug it off. It's not like you have a friendship with him anyway, so you won't be losing anything. All you can do is gain from it.

*edit: damn... jednp beat me to it*

quickdraw mcgraw here.. at your service hah

**hobocircus** · 12-13-2006, 11:53 PM

I would call him, couldn't hurt to see how he's doing.

Just wondering, I too had a similar buddy that I lost contact with for various reasons. I did a zabasearch and found his entire family, but he isn't on the list. Does it mean he died? anyone know for sure?

jimbo2 · 12-13-2006, 11:56 PM

Make the call, as was said you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. I feel part of being a man is to be able to admit your wrong and let the water pass under the bridge. It is my bet he will be sorry for what he did and your friendship will be stronger. If not you didn't lose anything. My grandfather always told me it's hard to call a friend a friend is you can't f&#* him just a little.

PS I can't help but laugh every time I see your avatar.

DJDan · 12-14-2006, 12:06 AM

Thanks guys! I'm going to give him a call asap.

I think I already knew the answer but needed a little backup.

Zaba search is by no means complete. For example...I am NOT on it. I stay low key and try to avoid being easily tracked down.

**Bycyclist** · 12-14-2006, 04:01 AM

What exactly is your avatar doing? Makes me laugh, but can't figure it out.

Arps · 12-14-2006, 04:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DJDan

Thanks guys! I'm going to give him a call asap.

I think I already knew the answer but needed a little backup.

I think you are making the right move. Let us know how it goes.

12-13-2006, 11:24 PM	#1
DJDan XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 1,334	Fell Out With Old Friend A Long Time Ago-Should I Call Him? I had a great friend...one of my best friends years ago...around 7 years or so that I had a BAD falling out with. We were roomates and I learned quickly that great friends sometimes make horrible roomates. I moved out on bad terms after he and friends had damaged my car and a couple other things. As he had damaged my car and some other issues I stiffed him for a month of rent since I had to repair my door panel and replace an item or two that were stolen by a friend of his. Of course we were BOTH in the wrong and neither of us handled it like adults and basically NEVER spoke again. In retrospect I miss him as a friend very much. The crap that he broke and that got stolen and the money I stiffed him is to me, completely unimportant, and I WISH I would have realized that back then. He is a good guy, pro-gun, fun to hang and drink beer with...just a regular good normal guy. I very much regret how everything happened and regret even MORE the fact that we never really attempted at a repair of the situation. I found a phone number for him on Zabasearch but have had a hard time bringing myself to make the call. I think maybe he'll think it's odd or just not give a sh t. I know this may be an odd question but I'm up in the air about what to do. It's hard to find true friends and I feel like we blew it over nonsense. __________________ I like turtles.

12-13-2006, 11:53 PM	#6
hobocircus XDTalk 3K Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: The Nevada Desert on a Dry Lakebed. Living in a trailer with thunderstorms looming in the distance. Posts: 3,343	I would call him, couldn't hurt to see how he's doing. Just wondering, I too had a similar buddy that I lost contact with for various reasons. I did a zabasearch and found his entire family, but he isn't on the list. Does it mean he died? anyone know for sure? __________________ Ported V-10 XD9 Service SOLD Tactical XD9 in Basic Black I like to shoot Wolf ammo out of my Hi-Point pistol and rifle.

12-14-2006, 12:06 AM	#8
DJDan XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 1,334	Thanks guys! I'm going to give him a call asap. I think I already knew the answer but needed a little backup. Zaba search is by no means complete. For example...I am NOT on it. I stay low key and try to avoid being easily tracked down. __________________ I like turtles.

12-14-2006, 04:01 AM	#9
Bycyclist XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: NorCaliforneeya Posts: 1,829	What exactly is your avatar doing? Makes me laugh, but can't figure it out. __________________ =============================================== BYcyclist - the worst day on a ride (or at the range) is better than the best day in the office ===============================================

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12-13-2006, 11:30 PM	#2
jednp XDTalk 4K Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Omaha, NE Posts: 4,691	I had a falling out with my best friend since kindergarten, in 11th grade. It was over a girl. I missed him as a friend greatly too. I contacted him like 4 years later and talked with him. He apologized for what happened, and I learned that the whole time we weren't talking it was eating him up.. heard that from taht girl as well. I forgave him, and we're back to being best friends. Couldn't get a better pair of friends.. my name is Jed, his is Jeb and we grew up about 1/2 block from eachother. All that stuff is in the past now and we don't care. It was worth me making the call, even when he was the one in the wrong. i say make the call, if he doesn't want anything to do with it then things will not change anyways so what's there to lose? You only have something to gain.

12-13-2006, 11:33 PM	#3
XDAndMe XDTalk 3K Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: PA, USA Posts: 3,402	It's no different than approaching a woman. You want to be accepted, but if you get rejected, you don't care. You lost nothing. At least you don't have to live with the "what if" question. I say call him if you really want to try and salvage the frienship. If he blows you off, just shrug it off. It's not like you have a friendship with him anyway, so you won't be losing anything. All you can do is gain from it. edit: damn... jednp beat me to it

12-13-2006, 11:43 PM	#4
Captain Jack XDTalk 1K Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,344	Seven years, eh? Did he damage your car on purpose? I wouldn't call. Move on.

12-13-2006, 11:56 PM	#7
jimbo2 XDTalk Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Renton Washington Posts: 37	Make the call, as was said you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. I feel part of being a man is to be able to admit your wrong and let the water pass under the bridge. It is my bet he will be sorry for what he did and your friendship will be stronger. If not you didn't lose anything. My grandfather always told me it's hard to call a friend a friend is you can't f&#* him just a little. PS I can't help but laugh every time I see your avatar.