Email from my daughter's cheerleading coach

[Fatboy3]

It started out with regular planning, costs and the like. Then it ended with this. I agree with some of it but geez:


Finally, after much thought, the staff here have concluded, that it is in your child's best interest, if ALL outside electronics are kept out of Kid City. (DSI's and any other video games, i Pod, i Pads, cell phones etc.) We have found over the summer that, try as we might , we can't monitor all the music your kids are listening to or games your kids are playing, and we have found that not all of the content is "kid friendly or appropriate." That said, we have also found that eventhough we limit the electronic time, we have noticed negative behavior that we believe is stemming from electronics. Like selfishness, aggression, poor sportsmanship,moodiness and boredom. When we as staff discussed this, we attribute it much to the fact that these electronics are isolating your children. They are in a false reality, instead of learning to communicate and play well with others, learning to share and learning how to play in competition and gain the value of winning and loosing. Please indulge me for one more moment, as I am old enough to be, for most of you, your mother, and having raised 2 kids of my own. Parents, learn to disconnect and make your kids learn this while they are young. I know we are all convinced we NEED the latest technology, but do we need it all the time. Just take a look around, how many people do you see driving, shopping at the dinner table and they have to have their phones. No more family conversations in the car or around the table. Everyones on the phone, or their ipod, or turn on a movie for goodness sake as soon as the car door slams. Now the schools are getting your kids wired up. I know, some of it is good, but a teacher from Midway recently told me they are doing away with cursive writing now, due to not fact that most correspondence is done by computer now. Why do they need to learn how to write. What ,are you kidding me. Next kids won't have to spell properly, or even, why learn at all as long as there is spell check. Of course, we have changed the English language based on texting, LOL or OMG or u or u r or, well you know what I mean. I guess I am just saying, parents, please be intentional about your parenting. If you want a relationship and communication, if you want your kids to be "present" when you are, you have to train it and model it. Believe me, if you don't do it now, when they become teenagers, forget it. Just a thought. I love your kids and I know you do to. Just saying. Anyway, have a great rest of the summer.

[Bonehead]

she has a point.

[agalindo]

That she does. About a year ago we sat next to a newlywed couple. The bridge was strikingly beautiful. For about 40 minutes neither of them said a word or looked at each other they were too busy with their phones.

[PoWdA]

What? Who is this person to tell you how to parent your own children again? Out of line and a boundaries were crossed. Also, definitely not an actual teacher. That was some terrible grammar right there. Also, it is "losing" not "loosing."

While I agree with what she is saying this is not her place. I would send a reply saying "Thank you, I agree, but you clearly stated that you have your own two children to parent, can you please let me parent mine?" Man, that lady makes me mad and I don't even know who this is.

[AwPhuch]

Originally Posted by PoWdA

What? Who is this person to tell you how to parent your own children again? Out of line and a boundaries were crossed. Also, definitely not an actual teacher. That was some terrible grammar right there. Also, it is "losing" not "loosing."

While I agree with what she is saying this is not her place. I would send a reply saying "Thank you, I agree, but you clearly stated that you have your own two children to parent, can you please let me parent mine?" Man, that lady makes me mad and I don't even know who this is.

And that right there is the bulk of the problem..jumping knee deep in the educators a-ss because "HOW DARE THEY SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT MY LITTLE JOHNNY OR SUZY!"

Sorry..when they drop their little Suzy or Johnny off and their loin fruit is raising amok and a disruption for all the other kids...IT IS HER DAMN PROBLEM!

Wanna know the problem...this is the damn problem!

[PoWdA]

Originally Posted by AwPhuch

And that right there is the bulk of the problem..jumping knee deep in the educators a-ss because "HOW DARE THEY SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT MY LITTLE JOHNNY OR SUZY!"

Sorry..when they drop their little Suzy or Johnny off and their loin fruit is raising amok and a disruption for all the other kids...IT IS HER DAMN PROBLEM!

Wanna know the problem...this is the damn problem!

Here is the thing... This person is the cheer leading coach. She says nothing about children's grades, she says everything about what she thinks about kids being glued to their smart phones all the time. If the school in instituting policy to ban iPods, gaming devices etc I get it, and agree with the policy change, but a short and sweet explanation is plenty. I don't care about her world views or what she thinks. I don't need the cheer leading coach telling me that I can't buy my son or daughter the latest technology although it is perfectly acceptable for a school administrator that is qualified to speak on behalf of the school say they can't have it on campus.


Basically, sure, ban ipods and other electronic distractions at school. I don't need to be berated by a cheer leading coach who probably doesn't even know what my kids grades are.


Also on the subject of banning phones... that one is a little touchy. I would want to have my child with a cell on him/her at all times in a high school these days. Maybe not the iPod 10 or whatever will be out when my son is hs aged but a simple phone in case something happens he can call. Ban all the other stuff. It has no place in a school.

[PokerNGuns]

Originally Posted by AwPhuch

And that right there is the bulk of the problem..jumping knee deep in the educators a-ss because "HOW DARE THEY SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT MY LITTLE JOHNNY OR SUZY!"

Sorry..when they drop their little Suzy or Johnny off and their loin fruit is raising amok and a disruption for all the other kids...IT IS HER DAMN PROBLEM!

Wanna know the problem...this is the damn problem!

+1.

[Mudinyeri]

Originally Posted by PoWdA

What? Who is this person to tell you how to parent your own children again? Out of line and a boundaries were crossed. Also, definitely not an actual teacher. That was some terrible grammar right there. Also, it is "losing" not "loosing."

While I agree with what she is saying this is not her place. I would send a reply saying "Thank you, I agree, but you clearly stated that you have your own two children to parent, can you please let me parent mine?" Man, that lady makes me mad and I don't even know who this is.

I agree with AwPhuch.

I do quite a bit of volunteer work with kids. At the beginning of the class/event/whatever, I make my rules and methods clear to the parents. I offer up that if they are uncomfortable with my rules and methods, they are welcome to discuss them with me or remove their child from the class/event/etc.

I have never had a parent want to "discuss" my rules with me person-to-person. I have never had a parent remove their child from my class or event. Only once has a parent made a comment about my methods in the middle of a basketball game that I was coaching. The comment was loud and derogatory. I addressed the comment calmly and quietly after the next practice. No problems followed.

On the other hand, I have had numerous parents thank me for my rules and express amazement at how well-behaved their children are under my rules.

[PoWdA]

That's great... yeah, I am going to let this old lady raise my kid? I get banning phones but be a professional. It is not her job to make the following statement:

"Parents, learn to disconnect and make your kids learn this while they are young. I know we are all convinced we NEED the latest technology, but do we need it all the time. Just take a look around, how many people do you see driving, shopping at the dinner table and they have to have their phones. No more family conversations in the car or around the table. Everyones on the phone, or their ipod, or turn on a movie for goodness sake as soon as the car door slams."

She is a cheer leading coach. To be honest she is probably up in arms because she cannot work a cell phone herself. People are afraid of what they do not know. The bottom line is that other than saying they are changing policy and a short explanation of why she was out of line. It is not her job to make judgements about my family. My son gets an hour of computer time, if he so chooses, before bed. Other than that he is outside playing. We don;t even have cable because our TV is never on anyway.

Basically, I don't care how she parents her children, leave parenting my kid up to me, she can handle her job and I can do mine.

[AwPhuch]

Originally Posted by PoWdA

That's great... yeah, I am going to let this old lady raise my kid? I get banning phones but be a professional. It is not her job to make the following statement:

"Parents, learn to disconnect and make your kids learn this while they are young. I know we are all convinced we NEED the latest technology, but do we need it all the time. Just take a look around, how many people do you see driving, shopping at the dinner table and they have to have their phones. No more family conversations in the car or around the table. Everyones on the phone, or their ipod, or turn on a movie for goodness sake as soon as the car door slams."

She is a cheer leading coach. To be honest she is probably up in arms because she cannot work a cell phone herself. People are afraid of what they do not know. The bottom line is that other than saying they are changing policy and a short explanation of why she was out of line. It is not her job to make judgements about my family. My son gets an hour of computer time, if he so chooses, before bed. Other than that he is outside playing. We don;t even have cable because our TV is never on anyway.

Basically, I don't care how she parents her children, leave parenting my kid up to me, she can handle her job and I can do mine.

Its not her job to raise your kids, its not her job to deal with your spoiled kids attitude problems..it IS your job as a parent to teach them not to be jackasses in public and at school, otherwise they will get out of control..then the dude with the badge and handcuffs will "raise em up" in the crossbar hotel.

And YES...when the child is causing problems and detracting from the other students learning IT IS HER PROBLEM...no wait...ITS YOUR F"N PROBLEM!!! Sorry...when you as a parent send your yewts out to locations of learning or whatever it is your responsibility to ensure they are basically trained to where they are not a nuisance and not impeding the progress of others because of their lack of discipline.

Oh and the letter was her telling YOU THE PARENT..its not my job to raise your kid (in case you missed the meaning behind it)