Getting married with (soon to be) step child in the mix. Anyone been there?

[AmickAndAmick]

NEVER EVER!!! never degrade the real dad in any way. Be honest when the time is right but mostly children will learn in their own time. You ALWAYS take the high road with the real dad. Give him every chance to either get it right and be a good dad or screw it up.... as he prob will.

You be the stable man but allow dad to be dad if he can or will. The child will always hope for dad to stand up and if dad does you will still be a great person too. Two great dads would be great but if not.. let real dad rise or fall on his own.

[Capt.D]

Originally Posted by AmickAndAmick

NEVER EVER!!! never degrade the real dad in any way. Be honest when the time is right but mostly children will learn in their own time. You ALWAYS take the high road with the real dad. Give him every chance to either get it right and be a good dad or screw it up.... as he prob will.

You be the stable man but allow dad to be dad if he can or will. The child will always hope for dad to stand up and if dad does you will still be a great person too. Two great dads would be great but if not.. let real dad rise or fall on his own.

I agree completely. My step daughter just got married and i encouraged her to let her father walk her down the aisle, he didn't but i did. I let her draw her own conclusions why he wouldn't make the trip. He will never get that chance back.

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Originally Posted by birda40

Also been there, all mine were great most of the time. Except when the girls turn 14-15. The little angels seem to change then, but around 19= 20 they come back to the real world. I have 12 kids all together, been a real ride. My youngest 12 (son ) and two girls 18 and 21 left. Almost done .... yea right.

my 20 yo is just now starting to come around. you know that saying about wrestling with the pig in the mud, that was us... she enjoyed it, and I just got dirty. When I left her alone, she started to realize the real world is a cruel place, LOL

youngest... sigh So much natural athleticism, and intelligent, holy crap is she smart. So much so, she's blowing a full ride athletic scholarship, and managed a 0.0 her first semester. At 19, she has it all figured out.

I expected it out of the oldest, the youngest one literally turned over night. It was like a switch got flipped with her. There were some professional coaches that would watch her run and said she had a shot to compete nationally, potentially internationally. Also a fantastic swimmer, might have made a great triathlon competitor. But, we're just wondering what she's going to do next. While she's extremely intelligent, so is mom, and step dad isn't too far behind them But, we have decades of experience on her