Honestly confused.

[dave_in_delaware]

Originally Posted by Xibalba

Well then, the main thing on my mind about women.. I'm in love with a pregnant woman I haven't seen for three years that could die if she goes into labor.

Without knowing the specifics of how you know her, does she know you, are you two friends (or were you), etc. I will say this:

Well, obviously since you haven't seen her for 3 years, then the child isn't your's. She's apparently in love with someone else. I would say stay away from her in that respect. She's someone else's woman now.

It's ok to care about another woman, and hope she makes it through childbirth, and things like that. But to be in love w/ her is moot now.

I don't mean to sound mean, but you're playing with fire here. You don't mess w/ another man's woman. Move on. Find yourself a different woman.

[Xibalba]

It's cool.. we've known each other for about 9-10 years, though I haven't seen her since I moved to Missouri. She isn't another mans woman, they broke up before she even found out, and I've felt this way about her for almost as long as I've known her.. We even used to date a while back (conflicting schedules screwed us up then)

[dave_in_delaware]

Originally Posted by Xibalba

It's cool.. we've known each other for about 9-10 years, though I haven't seen her since I moved to Missouri. She isn't another mans woman, they broke up before she even found out, and I've felt this way about her for almost as long as I've known her.. We even used to date a while back (conflicting schedules screwed us up then)

Hmmm... so she got pregnant (didn't know it at the time), but they broke up? That really sucks. At least he didn't know she was pregnant. My loser father left AFTER finding out he made my Mom pregnant. What a man (NOT).

Anyway, it sounds like distance is screwing you up in addition to schedules now. I think it would be nice if you called her (assuming you still have her number). Now that she's pregnant with no one to help her out, and the potential problem during childbirth, she could use a friendly voice right now.

How "in love" with her are you? Enough to move and be w/ her and another man's child? Does she have family that can help her out? I don't mean to pry, but you did post your personal dilema on a forum.

[Xibalba]

Originally Posted by dave_in_delaware

Hmmm... so she got pregnant (didn't know it at the time), but they broke up? That really sucks. At least he didn't know she was pregnant. My loser father left AFTER finding out he made my Mom pregnant. What a man (NOT).

Anyway, it sounds like distance is screwing you up in addition to schedules now. I think it would be nice if you called her (assuming you still have her number). Now that she's pregnant with no one to help her out, and the potential problem during childbirth, she could use a friendly voice right now.

How "in love" with her are you? Enough to move and be w/ her and another man's child? Does she have family that can help her out? I don't mean to pry, but you did post your personal dilema on a forum.

How in love am I with her? Well, after all these years, I still want to marry her, if that's any help. And We talk to each other just about every day, except on the weekends, when if I'm not working, I'm sleeping, lol.

It's not much of a dilemma to me, I know that after I get my car fixed up, I'm saving up the money to go back up there to be with her, I don't even care if she wants me back or not, though I'm thinking she does, I just need to be with her, especially if this is the end. Yes she does have family helping her out.

You're lucky, I wish my old man took off before I was born.... It would've been better than being constantly beaten and ridiculed and pitied for 24 damned years. Oh well, he can't do anything now, he knows I could kick his ass!

[dave_in_delaware]

Wow. I guess it's good that you still speak with her. I would hope that you don't move up there with the hopes of getting back together with her. Especially if you don't know how she feels about you. Since she's pregnant with another guy's kid, I think you can rule out that she's in love with you. Sorry. But if you want to be there for her when she's giving birth, in case you need to say goodbye, then by all means go if you feel it to be the right thing for you to do.

I just didn't want you to move up there for the wrong reasons. And you don't know how she really feels about you.

Good luck to you both.

And as far as the no-father thing, yeah it would have been better for you since he treated you that way. I'm sorry for that.

[Xibalba]

Yeah, Even though it's illinois, I'd take ANY reason to get back up there about now.. the government down in this hellhole is getting a bit too corrupted for me.. Especially since they won't allow me to pay my 'personal property' taxes on my car, so I could update the liscence plates, they won't inspect it either, and I need all this done by a week, or I'm going to have a huge ass fine on my hands from those tickets....

At least they let me get insurance!...

[dave_in_delaware]

wow. Sounds crazy. Well, I think you should talk to that female friend you like so much BEFORE you move up that way. Find out how she feels about you. Maybe she doesn't want a guy in her life. Maybe she does. Maybe she wants you back. You won't know until you talk about it w/ her. That way, you'll at least know WHERE to move (close to her or keep your distance).

Best of luck man.

[Xibalba]

I know she wants me back up there, I don't know if she want's to be with me again or not.. Though she does get really excited whenever I mention about going back up there... She misses me as much as I miss her, from the way she sounds anyway, But I still don't know how she wants me.. All I know is I want to be there for her, and if I could, I would marry her in a heartbeat, even if she dies.