The Wife Factor

[dmk]

I have never owned a gun and was hooked after shooting my brothers XD back in March. So I recently purchased a XD9SC in April. I made this purchase without talking to my wife. Well she found out yesterday and was so mad at me. Now she is anti gun and everything. She claimed I was stupid and asked what I was thinking. She tried throwing the whole, we have young kids in the house. She also tried throwing the line that I was being deceitful. (I don't know how since I never lied to her about it...just didn't tell her.)

I basically threw it back at her that I didn't say anything about it because I don't want the kids to know about it and that I didn't mention anything to her because I knew how she would react. I told her it is locked up an a safe and hidden.

I thought I would never live it down last night. I was on pins and needles waiting for WWIII to happen. Needless to say, she never brought it up. So I think I got away with it.

I know I have seen other posts on this forums about people buying more weapons without telling there wife, but how many have purchased their first without discussion it first?

[pitandxd]

I did it and reaped the consequences too. However, I had a good excuse that worked for the initial situation. Doesn't work for all the guns I've added since then. LOL. Good luck!!!


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[XDonRightHip]

You shouldn't hide gun ownership from your children. You should expose them to the concept and teach them proper respect and safety.

Start here:

Learn Gun Safety With Eddie Eagle - YouTube

Learn Gun Safety With Eddie Eagle - YouTube

[DAO.Diva]

It's an extremely serious decision to make alone. My hubby was likewise on pins and needles (he tells me) about bringing the subject up to me about first time ownership. One month later, after discussing it at length, we were in NRA classes together and both bought our first guns together. I think if he had done it without including me I would have been angry too. Luckily for eachother, we are both pro 2A.
You both need to talk about it again when things calm down. Maybe she would want to attend the classes to understand gun ownership and the responsibility that goes with it. Who knows, she might get on the bandwagon too, once she gets it that it is to protect your family.
Good luck and stay safe.

[oif0709]

Buy more and say its the same one. Just only have one out at the same time.

Mine had a fit when I was mailing 2 military rebates in to s&w. She's on the financial aspect of it. Not into guns at all. There wassup time when guns in the house were as common as frying pans....

[Sunday]

How old are your kids? They should be exposed and taught gun safety and how to enjoy guns. I grew up with guns and there is lots to learn.

[bowl443]

In my house and relationship, omission is lying. We communicate everything.

I would have told the wife that I was thinking about purchasing a firearm and why it was beneficial to our family. If she was totally against it, I would avoid it until we were on the same page.

All that's too late now though.

Is she open to going to the range? Have you shown her the safety measures you have in place? Have you tried to educate her on firearms and how safe they can be when handled correctly?

[Ridge]

Should have started with watching the news together and commenting on all of the home invasions etc. Hope you guys get through this one alright. You better find a way real fast to make it about her and the kids... Like Pitandxd said, it does make it harder to justify all of the others you're going to buy though but hopefully, she'll be on board or at least ok with your new hobby. LOL

I also agree with Bowl443. Don't even start that "I didn't lie to her, I just didn't tell her" stuff. Unles you're ready for her to start doing it to that is

[Chuckdizzle]

Do what you can to introduce her to guns, there probably won't be any more explaining you could do to justify your purchase, albeit a very good purchase. if you present it as a hobby and an interest of yours then I'm sure she will learn to understand.
I lucked out and my girl enjoys shooting but I say her grandfather is responsible for that. Most people are scared of guns but they've also probably never handled a gun. I was one of them.

[axo0481]

i started by going to the range with a friend too. i told my wife we needed a gun for hd but she said that she hated guns. i watched several videos and showed her that is not to hurt anyone. but, if something ever happened. then, it could save our lives. she looked at it from that point of view and it didn't sound so bad anymore.